lagi-lagi tentang PTC

udah pernah denger tentang PTC? kalo belum pernah tau,, aku bakal kasi sedikit bocorannya ya...
PTC = Paid to Click,, maksudnya kita dibayar untuk setiap klik iklan yang kita lakuin..

nah untuk lebih jelasnya,, baca penjelasan berikut ini yahhh....

Arti PTC apa?

PTC singkatan dari Paid To Click, atau bahasa kerennya kita dibayar untuk nge-click. Apa yang harus kita click? Ya sudah pasti iklan donk.

Jadi, kita dibayar oleh suatu pemilik web PTC karena kita sudah meng-click iklan-iklan yang disediakan selama beberapa detik. Jadi ya hanya klik iklan saja kerjaan kita.

Masih bingung?

Nih skemanya :

Perusahaan A/Web A beriklan di situs PTC B > Perusahaan A/Web A membayar situs PTC B > Anda bergabung di situs PTC B > Anda meng-klik iklan di situs PTC B > Situs PTC B membayar anda

Apa saja modalnya?

Modalnya hanya komputer, internet, dan waktu luang yang anda miliki

Bagaimana cara dibayarnya?

Dibayarnya melalui mata uang online, Paypal maupun Alertpay.

Apa itu Paypal/Alertpay?

Jadi itu merupakan bank online/dompet online, bahasa kerennya e-currency.

Ooo, jadi kita harus punya account mata uang online dulu?

Yup, kalo gak gimana nanti kita mau dibayar? :)

Trus cara daftarnya gimana?

Yang harus disiapkan:
1. Data diri Anda yang lengkap sesuai dengan KTP atau tagihan credit card....

Langkah-langkah:

1. Masuk ke www.alertpay.com, lalu klik sign-up

2. Pilih nama negara Anda disini (Indonesia)

3. Pilihlah account yang Anda inginkan. Apabila Anda baru menggunakan ini dan menggunakan ini hanya untuk menerima dan mengirim uang, pilih personal starter... kemudian klik di get started.

4. Isilah data-data yang diminta dengan benar dan sesuai dengan kartu identitas yang akan Anda gunakan untuk verifikasi.

5. Apabila sudah selesai, klik Next, lalu isilah data-data login Anda dengan benar termasuk alamat e-mail yang akan Anda gunakan untuk transaksi nanti.

6. Apabila sudah, klik Register...

7. Anda akan diberi konfirmasi bahwa Account telah selesai dibuat.

8. Langkah berikutnya adalah buka e-mail Anda, lalu cek di inbox. Jika alamat e-mail yang tadi anda masukan benar, maka seharusnya sekarang ada e-mail dari Alertpay. Buka e-mail tersebut dan klik di link untuk verify email...

9. Anda akan dibawa kembali ke website Alertpay. Masukan password Anda dan klik Log In.

10. Selanjutnya Anda akan diminta untuk membuat nomor PIN. Sama seperti ATM, Anda diharuskan untuk mengisi nomor PIN sebelum melakukan transaksi keluar.

11. Jika sudah, klik Submit... maka selesai Step pertama untuk membuka Account di AlertPay.

Langkah berikutnya adalah verifikasi alamat Anda, caranya:
Kirimkan hasil scan dari ID Anda, misalnya KTP, SIM atau PASPORT, dan kirimkan hasil scan dari Bukti Alamat, contoh... tagihan kartu kredit, tagihan telp, rekening koran, dll...
Alertpay akan mengirimkan email jika sudah selesai. Proses verifikasi dapat memakan waktu hingga 1 minggu. Sementara itu Account Anda masih dapat digunakan!

Yup. Selesai sudah cara membuat Account AlertPay.com, moga-moga membantu... :)

- cara membuat akun paypal

Yang anda butuhkan :
1. Alamat email yang valid
2. Kartu kredit atau kartu debit yang ada logo visa elektron. (Tidak semua kartu kredit diterima ya, mendingan dicoba dulu)
3. Untuk mencairkan dana dari paypal, anda bisa menggunakan kartu kredit anda atau di transfer ke bank di Indonesia (Lihat tutorialnya di blog ini)

Langkah-langkahnya:

1. Sebelumnya, siapkan dulu data-data Anda seperti email, nama, alamat, no telp dan yang paling penting adalah siapkan kartu kredit didepan Anda.

2. Langsung masuk ke www.paypal.com lalu click Sign Up

3. Pilih negara Anda, pastinya Indonesia

4. Setelah Anda memilih Indonesia, layar akan berubah otomatis. Anda diminta untuk memilih tipe account Anda. Jika Anda hanya menggunakan paypal untuk keperluan pribadi bukan bisnis, pilih personal account.

5. Klik Next dan isi halaman berikutnya dengan data Anda sebenar-benarnya. Pastikan Nama, Alamat dan No Telp sama dengan kartu kredit Anda. Untuk mata uang masukan US Dollar karena paypal belum menerima rupiah. (kasihan banget ya :D )
Telp yang anda masukkan tidak perlu menggunakan kode negara, cukup masukan nomornya saja, contoh: 0217364534
Apabila sudah selesai, klik Sign Up.

6. Masukkan data kartu kredit yang akan Anda gunakan untuk paypal. Pastikan bahwa nama, tipe kartu, nomor kartu dan masa berlaku kartu sama dengan kartu kredit Anda. Angka Verifikasi dapat Anda lihat di belakang kartu.

7. Apabila sudah selesai, klik Add Card.

8. Selanjutnya Anda akan menerima konfirmasi bahwa kartu Account Anda telah dibuat. Silakan cek inbox email Anda dan klik di link verifikasi untuk mengaktifkan paypal Anda.

9. Setelah itu, masuk kembali ke account paypal Anda menggunakan login dan password Anda. Lalu masuk ke my account dan klik di expanded option, baca informasi yang disana.

10. Sekarang Account Anda sebenarnya sudah ada tapi status Anda masih Not Verified. Anda tetap dapat melakukan transaksi online, tapi dengan limit hanya $100 USD.

11. Agar bisa menjadi verified member, paypal akan mengecek dahulu kebenaran kartu kredit Anda. Caranya tekan tombol Get Number dalam My Account - Expanded Option untuk mendapatkan 4 digit kode keamanan dari Paypal. Kode tersebut akan dikirim ke tagihan bulanan kartu kredit Anda. Kartu kredit akan di charge 1.95 dollar dan akan dikembalikan kemudian ke account paypal Anda.

12. Setelah tagihan bulanan Anda sampai dirumah, masukkan 4 digit kode tersebut kedalam account paypal Anda. Caranya masuk ke halaman My Account, dan klik bagian Activate Account - Complete Expanded Use Enrollment. Setelah Anda memasukan 4 digit kode keamanan tersebut, account paypal Anda dapat digunakan tanpa limitasi diatas dan Anda akan mendapatkan kredit 1,95 dollar tersebut di Account Anda.

Selamat, Anda sudah dapat menggunakan Account Paypal Anda. Semoga bermanfaat.
--- tapi tenang.. klo ga punya Credit Card,, bisa juga pake Virtual Credit Card (VCC) yang bisa dibeli seharga 75.000. (ntar itu info selanjutnya aja yaa)

Bisnis ini harus invest dulu ya?

Pertanyaan bagus. Kalo emang mau serius, kita bisa invest, hasilnya sepadan. Kalo mau nyoba-nyoba dulu atau iseng-iseng, gak usah invest dulu.

Jadi kita harus nge-click apa?

Ya jelas iklan lah :)

Cara kerjanya gimana sih?

1. Anda harus punya mata uang online dulu, alertpay atau paypal. Lebih baik punya dua-duanya.

2. Habis itu, daftar di website PTC. Berbagai macam web PTC ada di sidebar kanan blog ini. Itu semua yang saya rekomendasi. Dilihat dari survey saya, web PTC itu bukan SCAM (penipuan).

3. Setelah selesai mendaftar, login ke websitenya.

4. Trus klik View Adds, Surf add, Surf, dll. Nah disitu ada daftar iklan yang harus anda klik. Tugas anda adalah men-click iklan itu sampai habis.

Jadi ada berapa iklan yang harus kita klik?

Itu semua tergantung webnya, ada yang 2 iklan, ada yang 8, ada juga yang lebih dari 20.

Dibayarnya berapa?

Itu juga tergantung webnya, biasanya yang normal sekarang membayar 0.01 US Dollar per iklan, jadi sekitar 100 rupiah per iklan.

Hah? Cuma segitu? Kapan kita bisa kaya?

Kalau kita usaha sendirian, ya memang segitu aja dapatnya. Oke mari kita hitung : sehari ada 10 iklan, kita dapat 0.1 dollar. Trus sebulan dapat 0.1x30=3 dollar. Setahun dapat 36 dollar. Kalau dirupiahkan (1 dollar = 8500), maka dapat Rp 306.000,-. padahal sekarang dollar udah masuk 9800.. nah looo... itung aja sendiri ya... kira2 bakal untung ga...

Segitu aja? Sedikit banget!

Ya emang segitu aja. Tapi tunggu dulu!

Itu pendapatan anda apabila anda usaha sendirian, dan hanya di 1 PTC.

Kalau anda ikut 10 PTC, maka setahun dapat 360 dollar = Rp 3.060.000,-.

Ah, sama aja. Terlalu sedikit.

Eits, sabar. Itu kalau anda hanya berusaha sendirian, tanpa menggunakan strategi yang lain.

Jadi saya bisa dapat lebih banyak? Gimana caranya?

Ya pasti ada donk caranya

Yang pertama : Upgrade keanggotaan anda/upgrade membership. Kita diwajibkan membayar beberapa dollar. Tergantung web PTC itu, ada yang bayar 20 dollar, ada yang 50 dollar. Setelah upgrade, maka kita akan mendapat tambahan bayaran per klik. Jika standar member mendapat 0.01 dollar per klik, maka upgraded member mendapat 0.015 dollar per klik. Upgrade member juga mendapat jatah iklan yang lebih. Jadi, setelah anda invest menjadi upgraded member, maka keuntungan anda juga akan naik.

Yang kedua : Cari referral atau downline yang banyaaakkk….

Referral? Itu apa lagi?

Referral itu berarti referensi. Bisa juga disebut downline. Jadi tugas anda adalah menawarkan orang untuk ikut PTC melalui link referral anda, setelah orang itu mendaftar, maka dia akan menjadi downline anda. Anda akan mendapat persenan dari jumlah earning/penghasilan klik downline anda.

Lho kok bisa gitu? Berarti downline saya rugi dong?

Eit, anda salah paham. Maksudnya anda mendapat komisi dari downline anda tanpa mengurangi penghasilan downline anda. Misal begini skemanya :

Bayaran tiap 1 klik = $0.01

Bayaran tiap referral 1 klik = $0.01 (p.s : tidak semua 0.01, ada juga web PTC yang bayar $0.005)

Anda klik 10 iklan, mendapat 0.1 dollar. Downline anda juga klik 10 iklan. Maka anda mendapat komisi 0.1 dollar, dan downline anda tidak berkurang penghasilannya, tetap dapat 0.1 dollar.

Penghasilan anda = 0.2 dollar

Penghasilan downline anda = 0.1 dollar

Nah, di atas sudah terlihat, kalau anda punya 1 downline saja, maka pendapatan anda akan naik menjadi 2x lipat. Bagaimana kalau anda punya 10 downline? Tentu akan bertambah 10x lipat :)

Lumayan kan? Hitungan itu masih standar member lho, belum premium member :)

Berarti kita harus ngajak orang ya? Susah dong…

Memang susah, tapi apa salahnya mencoba? Coba dulu donk…

Kalau emang susah, masih ada cara lain kok, yaitu dengan membeli referral.

Bisakah?

Bisa donk, kebanyakan web PTC menjual referral. Biasanya dihargai 1 dollar, dan dijual secara paket.

Jadi, mereka mencari orang untuk menjadi downline kita?

Yang akan dijadikan downline anda adalah orang yang mendaftar situs PTC tanpa pakai referensi / tanpa upline. Jadi, kalau anda daftar langsung tanpa referensi, ntar anda bakalan dijadiin downline orang lain, gitu lho.

Ooo gitu. Ngerti, ngerti. Trus berapa lama pembayarannya?

Itu tergantung dari web PTC nya, ada yang Cuma butuh waktu 1-2 hari, ada pula yang sampai 6 bulan. Jadi anda harus cermat memilih-milih PTC.

Kalau yang punya web kabur, gimana?

Yah…itulah hidup. Penipuan masih marak, gak cuma offline, tapi penipuan online pun banyak. Dari 1000-an PTC, mungkin cuma 50-an saja yang jujur dan benar.

Apa? Jadi gimana?

Ya kita harus usaha. Saran saya, sebelum anda mau daftar di suatu PTC, browsing di google dengan kata kunci misalnya "bux.to scam" atau "bux.to penipu". Atau coba lihat di forum-forum, banyak yang komplain ga? Jangan lupa juga untuk ngeliat payment proof(bukti pembayaran), di forum banyak yang posting screenshot bukti pembayaran.

Saya sendiri sebelum join PTC, pasti ngelakuin survey dulu. Beberapa PTC yang saya ikuti, untuk sekarang ini masih dalam kategori aman.

Sudah daftar nih. Trus mana iklan yang harus di-klik?

Ada di menu Surf Add, View Add, atau Adds aja. Klik iklannya, kemudian tunggu beberapa detik.

Internet And Business Online – The Act Of Interdependence

The best role of business online is that of interdependency. We’ve all heard the old saying, “No man is an island.” When it comes to online business this is especially true.

If a business owner who takes their business into the online world determines they will be self reliant and never accept the help of anyone then that individual will not be in business long enough to change their minds.

It is accepted fact that the greatest tool for long-term exposure to your website is through Search Engine Optimization (SEO). Without it potential customers can’t find you. It is unreasonable to expect that you can adequately develop a website without optimizing your website for the best possible search engine ranking.

Search engines also place a high value on sites that have links placed on existing sites. These ‘backlinks’ demonstrate to search engines that others trust your site. By placing your link on their website these other businesses indicate a trust and recommendation for your site.

In effect the two strategies listed above rely exclusively on what others can do for you when it comes to your online business.

Shirley Temple once proclaimed in her movie Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm, “I’m very self-reliant.” American westerns are filled with lines dealing with pulling yourself up by your bootstraps and holding down the fort. Many of us have grown up to believe if we want something done right we have to do it ourselves.

This thinking is in opposition to the rules associated with an online business.

The online world can only exist because people share. Individuals share technology, but the also share links, reviews, blogs, forums and a wide range of other marketing strategies that find a commingling of interdependency.

In online business you are as dependent on others as they may be on you. Unlike the word ‘dependent’, the term interdependent indicates a mutual dependency. In other words you are depending on others to help provide links back to your site while they are equally dependent on you (or others) for the success of their business.

Have you really taken a proactive approach to networking? It’s possible you are reading this today and you’ve never considered asking someone else to place a link to your site on his or her online business site.

It can feel awkward depending on others to achieve online success especially if you’ve been lead to believe reliance on others is also a sign of imposing on their otherwise brilliant generosity.

I suppose it could be a deep-seated sense of pride that makes it hard to consider the need to ask others for help. However, the truth is depending on others is really what has made the Internet possible. The growth of this online world is comprised of a link of computers, networks and servers that are connected in a way that provides the maximum benefit for all.

Building an online business can feel a bit like trying to build a house of cards. Without the ability to rely on the other ‘cards’ around you it is virtually impossible to build.

Interdependence. This is the essence of online business.

Laughter Is Truly The Best Medicine

If there's one thing I have to admit about my mother is that she was always right about this: Laughter Is The Best Medicine.

If you can't laugh about yourself and the things that happen to you - you're headed for a heart attack or some other malady, it's the way the body works. Laughter lightens the moment and strips away the seriousness that many of us approach life with; it releases the pain and chases away your personal rainstorms leaving a bright sunshiny day.

Scientists have also discovered that laughter strengthens your immune system and increases your cardiovascular flexibility (your blood vessels exercise through dilation).

According to Dr. Goodheart, the laughter doctor, laughter convulses your diaphragm, which in turn massages your internal organs. Massaged internal organs are happy internal organs and they cooperate by staying plump and juicy.

She says that laughter also causes you to gulp in large portions of air, oxygenating your blood. When that air is expelled, it's been clocked at 70 miles an hour, providing the lungs with an excellent workout. By laughing, she says, you lose muscle control, which relaxes the skeletal system. According to Dr. Goodheart, four-year-olds laugh 500 times a day, while adults laugh a mere 15! She's convinced that if we laugh as much as a four-year old, we've have the heart rate and blood pressure of that same child.

On top of all that, she continues, laughter causes the brain to produce hormones called beta endorphins which reduce pain and causes our adrenal glands to manufacture cortisol, which is a natural anti-inflammatory that's wonderful for arthritis.

Laughter also provides a catharsis, which means to purify or purge, to the emotions. It also brings about a spiritual renewal or release from tension. You notice how sometimes you'll see a comedian on television, and while he may not be that funny, something just makes you laugh uproariously? Your body seems to know that it needs the chemicals that are released through laughter.

I've always felt better after a good belly laugh or two. For me that means some very large-sounding snorts and a few donkey brays thrown into the bargain. Some people won't even go to the movie with me because when I start laughing I cannot stop. My daughters always used to go, Mom! as they slunk down into their seats trying not to be seen.

When someone's laughing, others laugh along. It's contagious. You can't help it. Oftentimes in my movie-theater laughter excursions, I have motivated a whole theater-full of people laughing right along with me. All this during the credits! (John Belushi being escorted through the prison in the opening credit scenes of The Blues Brothers. If you notice very carefully, while walking he has his butt cheeks pressed ever so tightly together as he's leaving the prison. It was a subtle physical comment that kept me laughing. The more people turned and looked at me, the harder I laughed! Finally, they just gave up and joined me!).

The Difference between Laughter, Humor, Teasing and Tickling

However, there is a difference between laughter, humor, teasing or tickling. Humor is your way of looking at the world, it's an intellectual exercise. It's your idea of what's funny; it's not the actual act of laughing.

Teasing and tickling are really a way of ridiculing someone. Tickling is something beyond someone's control and is actually a physical invasion of sorts. Children laugh when you tickle them because the body works that way, but it's actually a form of emotional ridicule that can result in very unpleasant feelings.

Teasing usually has an edge to it. People say they're teasing, but essentially they are dead serious. I think teasing is a passive-aggressive way of hurting someone through the guise of humor. Teasing, according to Dr. Goodheart, "involves our having information about something that another person has very strong feelings about - usually painful feelings - and then bringing that information up without permission." She also says that as people become very good friends they might give each other permission unconsciously to push each other's buttons. Husbands, wives, lovers, and friends play with each other's pain with permission. "When you tease without permission in order to trigger laughter, it's very manipulative and controlling."

All in all, when you're feeling down and need a lift, try laughter. It may be hard at first, but just try laughing. Force yourself. Pretty soon, you'll find yourself laughing at your own laughter and the looks you get from your family members. They'll begin to wonder what's so funny and the corners of their mouths will crinkle up in the beginning of a smile. Now you're laughing because they give you these quizzical looks wondering what you're laughing about.

Pretty soon, your laugh is real, your belly aches, the tears flow from your eyes, and the world takes on a different hue.

As for me when I laugh like this, I need Depends. I laugh so hard sometimes I wet my pants and that has nothing to do with my age.

I can still hear my friend's mom yelling at me today nearly 38 years later (while grinning ear to ear) to get off her brocade couch whenever I started laughing.

She knew what would happen.

How Do You Know if Your Child has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)

There are more than 2 million children suffering from ADHD in America, and the figures are set to increase exponentially every 4 years. Despite this, most parents are unaware of how to recognize ADHD, or how to treat it. The symptoms of ADHD are also easily mistaken for a child misbehaving, making it even harder for a parent to differentiate between the two.

ADHD is a form of Attention Deficit Disorder, and is the most common neurological disease that children suffer from, with up to 5% of the children in America afflicted. As a parent, learn to recognize the symptoms so that you can seek professional help for your child. The main symptoms of ADHD are aggression, impulsiveness, restlessness, learning disabilities, an inability to focus and hyperactivity. Hence, even for parents who know the signs to look out for, it is often difficult to draw the line between normal misbehavior and ADHD.

How to you differentiate between the various forms of ADD? Add simply means that your child is unable to concentrate, and likely to forget what you have told him less than 10 seconds ago. ADHD on the other hand, means that not only has he forgotten what you have said, he is also likely to be running around instead of staying still whilst you address him. If you suspect that your child may be suffering from ADHD, it is better to err on the side of caution and visit your doctor for a professional opinion. It is treatable, and if identified early you can make a difference in helping your child learn and cope with life.

There are many symptoms of ADHD, such as forgetfulness, restlessness, aggression, agitation, depression, anxiety, impulsive behavior and an inability to focus. However, these are highly common and often confused with the symptoms of anxiety, depression, thyroid, or a stressful environment. Excessive sugar and allergies may also cause the same symptoms, as well as if your child is highly intelligent causing him to be easily bored and hence restless.

Fortunately, more parents are gaining greater awareness of the problem, and schools have also played a major role in the dissemination of information regarding ADHD. Whilst it is a significant problem for a child suffering from ADHD, keep in mind that you are never alone and that there is help available readily. Often times, medication is the first answer that parents look to for solving the problem. However, there are other alternatives as well.

Parents should try to keep a closer watch over the child’s diet, and cut off foods with high sugar content, or possible allergies. Give the child more attention and time, and help him to feel connected to the environment. He knows that he is different, and you should try your best to help him feel that he belongs. Whilst medication can treat the symptoms, it is equally if not more important to ensure that the child’s emotional and mental health is well taken care of.

I Can Do It! 7 Tips for Teaching Your Children Self Reliance

Most parents are trying to stay clear of the label "helicopter parents," because they don't want to be seen as the type of mother or father who hover and "overprotect." The most powerful parents have realized that when their children have the opportunity to make mistakes, they gain an invaluable opportunity to learn from those mistakes.

It's developmentally appropriate for children to become more and more independent, self reliant and responsible as they age. It can be challenging for parents to know when to step back and let their children try something on their own. After all, from the time their children were babies, parents have spent years meeting many to all of their child's needs.

Striking a balance between allowing your children to do tasks for themselves and helping them when they seem to need or want is a talent of very powerful parents. This balance allows their children to thrive because they feel more confident in themselves while still feeling supported and properly mentored.

How can we instill self reliance and responsibility into our children?

(1) Allow your children to make some decisions: Even young children can make sound decisions if you give them a few select choices. Do you want to wear the red shirt or the blue shirt? Would you like a peanut butter sandwich or a cheese sandwich? As children get older, you can allow them to make more important decisions with little to no guidance. They can determine things like which Fall sport they'd like to play, if they need a tutor for math, and which friends they'd like to spend time with each day without needing much, if any, input from parents. While it's tempting to make these kinds of decisions for your older children, they need to stand on their own two feet—after all, their decisions are often correct!

(2) Encourage your children to try tasks on their own: While it's often quicker and more skillfully done when we do it for them, children need to engage in tasks on their own if they're ever going to learn how to do them well. Laundry, shoe-tying, and making the bed are great places to start with young children. Older children can handle more complicated tasks such as cooking, preparing their own lunch, and doing their own homework.

(3) Model responsibility and self reliance: Parents have many responsibilities—let your child see them and hear about them! Say out loud; "This screw seems a little loose, I'll go get the screwdriver and tighten it" or "I have to plan our weekly menu for dinner; let's see...Monday night we'll have..." When children see you making decisions, taking initiative, and displaying self reliant behaviors, they will engage in similar behavior.

(4) Be your child's coach rather than his sage: When your child asks you questions about how to do something or what to do in a certain situation, sometimes asking questions is more important than providing answers. "What do you think you should do? How would you feel if you chose X? What would happen if you did Y instead?" These questions can unlock the answers in your own child's brain so the next time he's in a similar situation he'll be able to call on his own experience and judgment to make a decision.

(5) Be a good support system: Sometimes this means cheering them on from the sidelines and other times it means encouraging them to try again. Of course, when children truly need your help, they should know that they can count on you. If you teach them to ask for help when they really need it (when something seems unsafe or too challenging), they should know that you will be there to assist them. Children who know that they can count on their parents when they really need it feel better about taking risks and the possibility of making mistakes.

(6) Provide them with responsibilities: Chores are great for teaching children how to be self reliant as well as how to work as a team. After teaching them how to do the chore properly, let them give it a try with some assistance, if needed. You can even work on a checklist together which helps to break down the task into easy, age-appropriate chunks. For example, (a) Take the clothes out of the dryer, (b) Separate the clothes by family member, (c) Match up all the socks...and so on. When we provide children with ways to help out the family, we give them opportunities to build responsibility, self confidence, and self reliance.

(7) Encourage healthy risk-taking: Assure your children that making mistakes is OK. The most important thing is that s/he tries! Most things are not done perfectly the first time—even when you're an adult. It doesn't mean "the end of the world" and there is no reason to be embarrassed. Watching our children make mistakes can be challenging. We may want to rush to their aid to shield them from impending failure or disappointment. However, when parents do this, they rob their children of some very powerful tools; self confidence, stick-to-itiveness, and of course, self reliance.

Your children are relying on you to teach them how to approach the world. Sometimes that means they have to watch you to learn how to approach the task. But other times that means, you must watch them from the sidelines and encourage them to figure it out on their own.

Self Defense For Women

Self Defense: A Necessity for Women

Whoever thought that the world would become a better place in due time and with technological advancements and modernization was wrong. The world is still as hostile a place, and the only thing that has changed is the weapons. Crime has become more sophisticated in nature but the sad part is that women are still considered as soft targets.

Crime on women has in fact, increased over the years in developed countries like the US and UK and across the world. Let us first take a look at the worldwide statistics for crime on women:

• 1 in every 3 women across the world has been subjugated to rape or sexual assault. (Data: 2001)
• In some developing countries, at least one-third of the adolescent girls have been forced into sexual initiation (Data: 2002)
• Sex crimes in South Africa take place every twenty seconds. (Data: 2000)
• Major incidents of rapes have been reported in 12 African provinces. The rate has increased considerably from 182 in 2001 to 270 in 2002.
• 14,000 of the 331,815 reported crimes committed against women in the Russian Federation were rapes.
• According to a survey in the United Kingdom it was found that 19.4 % of the women there have been victims of some kind of sexual violence. (Data: 2001)
• 40% of girls in South East Asia are being forced into prostitution as a means to feed their families.

Now let’s take a look at the US

• One of the startling facts is that 1 in 3 American women are sexually assaulted in their lifetime.
• 89% of sexual crimes have been committed by someone known to the victim.
• In 2002, there were 247,730 victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault.
• In 2005-2006, there were 232,010 victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault.
• Around 44% of rape victims are under age 18, while 80% are under age 30.


Sources (2005)

1. The World Bank. http://www.worldbank.org
2. “International Statistics.” http://www.sexualassault.virginia.edu/statistics_international.htm
3. United Nations Development Fund for Women. “Facts and Figures: Sexual Violence in Non-Conflict Situations.” http://www.unifem.org/campaigns/november25/facts_figures_3.php
4. The World Health Organization. “Sexual Violence Facts.” http://www.who.int/violence_injury_prevention
5. United Nations Development Fund for Women. “Stop Violence against Women: Prevalence of Sexual Assault.” http://www.stopvaw.org/PrevalenceofSexualAssault.html or http://www.unifem.org
6. National Center for Victims of Crime (2004)
7. NSVRC. “Global perspectives on Sexual

In such an insecure world, it is far more difficult for a woman to survive as compared to their male counterpart. But all is not lost because there are several methods or weapons that a woman can use to thwart an assaulter. One of the most powerful and popular weapons is the pepper spray, which has a far-reaching effect. The motive behind using pepper sprays as opposed to lethal weapons like Guns is that pepper sprays or Tasers will not kill the assaulter or anyone trying to commit crime on a woman but at the same time, these weapons are extremely effective and can save a woman’s life and dignity.

The different types of crimes on women include:

• Carjacking
• Rape
• Murder & Theft
• Theft
• Sexual abuse
• Domestic violence
• Purse snatching
• Stalking
• Threats
• Property crimes
• Sexual harassment in the office

Of all these crimes, rape, sexual abuse, sexual harassment in office premises and stalking has a higher rate than other crimes. In such a crime, a woman can use a pepper spray, Taser or martial art techniques for self defense.

The Pepper Spray

The Pepper spray is also called an OC spray, where OC stands for Oleoresin Capsicum. It is basically a powerful lachrymatory agent, a chemical compound that can cause severe irritation in the eyes and ears and even lead to temporary blindness and severe pain. The pepper spray is used the world over by women to protect them against any anti-social element and have considerably brought down the number of sexual molestation and rape in many countries.

The Pepper spray can be used for various purposes like controlling a mob, controlling riot and even as a weapon of self-defense against animals like bears, wolves, and dogs. It is completely non-lethal although it can be deadly if not used in small quantities. In 1995, the American Civil Liberties Union had documented 14 cases of pepper spray use that turned fatal. If you spray an entire can of Pepper Spray into someone’s eyes then in all probability the subject will go permanently blind.

The primary ingredient in Pepper spray is called capsaicin. Capsaicin is a chemical compound that can be derived from the fruits of a special plant belonging to the Capsicum genus and chillies. There are several different types of Pepper spray in use like Mace Pepper Sprays, Wildfire Pepper Spray, Lipstick Pepper Spray, and a specific version called the PAVA Pepper Spray. The PAVA Pepper Spray has capsaicin, pelargonic acid vanillylamide or desmethyldihydrocapsaicin and it is extensively used in England. A synthetic counterpart of the pepper spray is called the pelargonic acid morpholide. This was developed in Russia and is widely used there.

Pepper sprays are available in canisters and are considered to be an inflammatory. The moment you use pepper spray on a subject, it will cause severe irritation in the eyes and closing of the eye. Some of the other symptoms include a running nose, difficulty in breathing, and coughing apart from the tears. The duration of a Pepper spray effect actually depends on the amount of spray you have used but on an average it can last from anywhere between thirty minutes to an hour.

Here are some important tips:

1. When you are carrying a can of pepper spray in your hand, your thumb should be on the top of your trigger.
2. If your attacker comes too close too you then back up a little so that you are in a better position to use the spray.
3. Use a good amount of spray so that the chilli pepper can do its job as quickly as possible.
4. While the attacker is in pain and temporarily blind, you should try to get out of there as fast as you can.

TASER C2

One of the best self-defense weapons is a stun gun like the Taser C2. There are several benefits of owning or using a Taser C2 stun gun. It is handy and can be carried just about anywhere. It can be hid in the purse as it is of the size of a TV remote and can be used anywhere, anytime. It can be easily found over the internet and costs around $300.

The Taser C2 delivers a charge or electric current the moment it comes into direct contact with the attacker or the subject in question. The Taser C2 has a range of 15 feet and it can pierce through 2 inches of clothing. The range will help any woman to prepare and defend herself well in advance.

The Taser C2 is an electronically controlled device or ECD. The cartridge consists of two electrodes, which are propelled through the air with the help of two wires and compressed nitrogen. The electrodes pierce through the clothing and stick to the skin. Electrical pulses are transmitted through the wires to the electrodes and into the body of the attacker. The effect is stunning and the attacker will go into a shock. The effect will last long enough for you to flee from there or call for law enforcement agents. The Taser C2 can be fired to anywhere on the body and is non-lethal hence can be used extensively by women to thwart any attack.

Martial Arts

The last line of defense is Martial Arts, which combined with any of the above can prove to be a lethal combination. Martial Arts are not for everyone not because the training is difficult but because it is time consuming too. Martial art is considered to be a lethal force and you might end up killing your attacker. There are different types of martial art forms that can be learnt quickly like Judo, Karate, Taekwondo, and Tai Chi. Karate and Taekwondo are by far the most popular forms and can also cause severe injury to the attacker.

There are certain parts of the human body, which are prone to severe injuries like the face, forehead, neck, abdomen, and groin. You can hit a man or your attacker in the groin and the nose for maximum impact. The strongest weapons of a woman’s body include the head, elbow, and knees. Martial art will teach you to use these body parts effectively to disable or wound your opponent temporarily. A hit with the elbow to the nose will not only stun them but also give you enough time to get away.

The only drawback of Martial arts is that it is effective only in close combat situations but if your subject is fleeing away or is at a distance then the Taser and the Pepper Spray can prove to be highly effective.

Additional information regarding Pepper Sprays and the Taser C2 can be found at http://www.stungunsupply.com

Manifestation Exercise # 11 - Discovering the Hidden Positives Behind The Negatives

This is a good exercise to use when you want to discover what is really going on behind the scenes of your negative experiences. There is something positive beyond them - you just need to discover what it is.

You see, your higher self sees beyond time and current circumstances. It knows your “true intentions“, even if you are unaware of them consciously, and it will do everything in its power to match you vibrationally to that thing you are “truly” wanting.

For instance, if your higher intention is safety and security and something comes up that will jeopardize that safety and security (even if you are unaware that it will jeopardize it at the time) it is not at all surprising that obstacles will suddenly appear to prevent you from making a mistake.

Quite often we can misinterpret this obstacles as negative things happening to us or it is just us “not getting what we want when we want it” but there is a little more to it than that.

The following story is an example:

My husband and I were living in a house we bought in Staten Island when we first got married. At the time we bought it, we were both working full time in Manhattan, and while we were making just enough to afford it, there was no extra money.

After a couple of years we decided we wanted to have a baby, but realized that there was no way we could continue to pay for the house if I quit working to stay home to take care of the baby (which I really wanted to do) nor could we afford a full time sitter under the circumstances.

So we decided the only logical solution was to sell our house in New York and have a house built in Southern New Jersey about an hour and a half away. The houses there were much cheaper and we could afford to live there on one salary. We were leaving friends and family behind, but we couldn’t see any other choice.

This was when we ended up making one of the most ridiculous mistakes we could have ever made (or so we thought). Instead of taking the money from the sale of our Staten Island home and putting it into an escrow account to be used for the down payment on the new house we were having built, we made the mistake of giving the money directly to the builder. This builder then proceeded to skip town with it; leaving us with no house, no money to buy another one and no way to find him. By the time this all occurred I was already six months pregnant. Now to say I was despondent was putting it mildly!

We had no choice but to get ourselves an apartment in Staten Island and pray that we would hit some kind of lottery, because with only my husband working it would take years to save up enough money for another down payment. On top of that, the housing boom hit which put $200,000 homes into the half million dollar category! Talk about watching your dream get further and further away from you!

Now you see, I truly do believe that everything happens for a reason, but at the time, I truly couldn’t figure this one out. We were both good and honest people; we had worked hard and had saved every penny we could and now it was all gone in one fell swoop.

Even though I had already starting learning about the law of attraction, this was a really tough one for me to overcome. No matter how hard I tried I couldn’t seem to get past the resentment I felt towards the whole situation. Which of coarse kept me in the situation even longer.

Eventually I started getting back into studying, meditating and looking forward instead of back. It was no easy climb, I assure you. But I started my own online business and put all my energy into focusing on bringing more money in as opposed to staying focused on what we had lost.

Now this is when things got interesting. During the time this was all happening, my mother met a really great guy she was getting serious with. He had his own house in Pennsylvania and she eventually found herself spending more time there then she was in her own house in Staten Island. She didn’t want to sell her house because she still wanted a place to be able to come back to when she visited us or my brother.

So she made us a deal. If my husband and I would take over all the expenses of the house (the mortgage was paid off years ago, so it was just taxes, insurance and the utilities), we could live there as long as we wanted. We only needed to leave the guest room open for her anytime she wanted to visit. Talk about a no-brainer!

The part that strikes me funny though (and what inspired this article, by the way) is that I just came across my old law of attraction journals and read what I had written years ago right before I had sold my own Staten Island home.

It is the list of intentions I wrote to Universe about what I was choosing to create for my future. This is what it said:

I choose to live in a beautiful house I can easily afford
I choose it to be in a great neighborhood
I choose to be surrounded by good friends and neighbors
I choose it to be located in a great school zone

There were some other minor things, but that was the gist of it. What amazes me looking at it now is realizing that I never stated that I had to own the house, or that I was going to have the perfect house built, or even stated that it was going to be a beautiful house in New Jersey; though I know at the time that I wrote the list that that was the direction we were headed because we were already in the process.

All I know is, I am glad that Universe took me at my word and I am very happy that in this case I wasn‘t more specific, because I couldn’t have foreseen how much better this situation would work out for me.

You see, in the time that it took for all these things to occur, the property taxes in the area of New Jersey that I was going to move to has since tripled! If I was living there now it would be costing me more than I was originally paying for my first Staten Island house that I couldn’t afford. It would have been a constant financial struggle, even if I had found another full time job out of the house.

Not to mention how easily the other things on my list fell into place. I am living in a great neighborhood, I am already surrounded by good friends and neighbors because I have known them most of my life growing up here and my son is in the same excellent school zone I was in!

The point is, quite often we don’t realize when we are right in the thick of what we perceive to be a negative situation, that there is something for our greater good beyond it.

We get so focused on cursing the darkness in the tunnel that we forget to look for the light at the end of it.

So here is the exercise for you. It comes in two parts with a bonus at the end if you really want to get into it..

Part One

Think back and write down all the times when what you thought was a negative situation turned into a positive one.

For instance:

When you had to cancel vacation plans due to work or lack of money and found out later they had a hurricane that week.
When you missed your flight due to bad weather and then found out the plane you were supposed to be on got stuck on the tarmac for 7 hours and you were at least in a comfortable airport with a bar and a bathroom!
When you didn’t get a job you thought you wanted and ended up being available for a better one.
When the person you wanted to call you never did, and you ended up meeting the “one” because you were single.
When you missed making the perfect investment, only to find out the company tanked and you would have lost a ton of money.

You get the idea. These things happen all the time. Writing them down helps reaffirm to you that Universe (or your higher self, if you prefer) does in fact have your best interests at heart. If you have a hard time coming up with anything, think about every good thing in your life right now and backtrack. Believe me, you will start to see many ways these things couldn’t have come to you if you had indeed gotten what you originally asked for.

Part Two

Start looking for the light at the end of your tunnel by asking What If? What If The Reason I Haven’t Gotten What I Want Yet Is Because….? Start stretching your mind with ideas of what your higher self might have in store for you that you just haven’t realized yet.

For example:

What if (I didn’t get this position) because a better one is waiting for me.
What if (the reason the deal on buying the house fell through) was because the roof is about to collapse this winter and it would have cost me a fortune I wouldn’t have.
What if (the reason he/she hasn’t called me for another date) was because they are total psychos and my higher self knows better than for me to get involved with them.
What if (the reason the car broke down today when I had somewhere really important to be) was because I would have been involved in a major accident if I had been on the highway today.
What if (the reason I can’t afford the ski trip right now) is because I would have broken my leg on the slopes.
What if (the reason I am stuck on the absolutely slowest line in the store) is because if I left earlier I would run into someone I really don’t want to see right now.

Really stretch your imagination. The fun part of this exercise is that it can help soothe you through disappointment. But the most important part happens later when you prove yourself to be right and you indeed confirm that your higher self has your best interests at heart. That’s when you begin to trust that everything is happening in exactly the right order.

Now for the Bonus Part if you really want to get into it.

Step Three

Try to find your true “hidden intention” as opposed to what you think that you want.

For instance, with my Jersey house. I originally thought my intention was to have this beautifully built house in New Jersey. But in truth my “hidden intention” was just to live in a beautiful house I could afford. This was obvious by how I wrote my intention on my list. After struggling financially in our first house, security was really all I was looking for and just hadn’t realized it. It wasn’t until after I received it that I noticed the blessing it really was.

Maybe in your case, your “hidden intention” was to find someone who really cared about you and was interested in the same things you are. You might have originally thought you were going to find this with a person of the opposite sex but instead you found it in the new best friend you made six months ago and you just haven‘t realized it yet.

So start enjoying and appreciating that friend that Universe sent you in answer to your request and watch how that higher vibration will automatically attract the opposite sex person you are also wanting. Heck! It might even be through that friend.

We are happily such complicated creatures. So much lies below the surface we aren‘t even aware of. But the daily discovery of these things is what makes life so fun and interesting.

Just the fact that you are reading these types of articles means you are already on your way to discovery.

So start looking for the positives that await you in your future. If something you are going through appears negative at the moment, it simply means you haven’t yet discovered the place your higher self is leading you to.

Don’t get discouraged, don’t give up and don’t curse the darkness. Start taking the first steps now to finding the light at the end of your tunnel.

Happy Creating!